tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-337800722024-03-13T13:57:05.419-04:00Frum in South FloridaThe Musings of A "Frum" Mom in South FloridaMAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.comBlogger390125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-53153388245541734082021-08-16T18:10:00.000-04:002021-08-16T18:10:15.963-04:00ChoicesChoices. They are both exciting; opening up new opportunities, new vistas, and new options; and the bane of my existence. We live our lives every day with small choices. What will I have for breakfast? Will I get the laundry done now, or can it wait one more day? Is it worth the fight over this one small thing? <div>Then there are the big choices. The ones that come along not as often. Looking for the right house to buy, or should we continue to rent? Should we continue living here, where we're comfortable or somewhere new? A new car, what kind fits our needs and which one of us will drive it? I love it , he hates it, maybe it costs too much money, maybe it's worth it. A hundred little decisions made into one big one. </div><div>Even after the decision is made, we often look back and question, was it the right one? Maybe we shouldn't have sold the car. Maybe we shouldn't have moved to a condo. Maybe, maybe, maybe.</div><div>And maybe we should just move forward.</div>MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-28684839764084551082021-04-30T00:03:00.000-04:002021-04-30T00:03:15.345-04:00One year<p> It's been one year.</p><p>One year since we moved from a house to our own apartment.</p><p>One year since a global pandemic started.</p><p>One year since my youngest was born.</p><p>One year since the world was turned on its head. </p><p>And here we sit. One year later, and the world is still spinning.</p>MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-61274157386247878732021-02-08T23:45:00.000-05:002021-02-08T23:45:00.096-05:00<p> There is just not enough time in the day. It's just the truth. Not enough time for all the cleaning, all the teaching, all the errands, all little things that need to get done every day. So you break it down, try to get a little done every day. But because there is not enough time, and there is always plenty of chaos. It seems as if the world is spinning too fast, and it's just too overwhelming at times. So you tread water, just trying to breathe, trying to survive, and get through to the next day, to the next week. But you take a deep breath, and keep pushing through. Because the little things make it worth it. The smiles, the "I love you"s, the successes, no matter how small. The waves may keep washing over you, but you push through. Life is worth it. Don't sweat the small stuff, when the big stuff is so much more important.</p>MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-66300971318366686612020-12-01T15:10:00.000-05:002020-12-01T15:10:55.544-05:00My birth story<p> I have given birth to 5 babies. Each pregnancy is, of course, a different experience, but I think this one has all of my others beat. Not only was she born in the middle of lockdown during a pandemic, she was induced 3 weeks prior to her due date. My blood pressure had been slowly rising for the last 2 pregnancies, but this one was the worst.</p><p> So at my 37 week appointment, the doctor turned to me and said "We are going to induce today." At the time I was completely freaked out, I had never had a baby that early and while I knew plenty of babies were born naturally that way and were fine, I was freaking out internally at the idea. It was not the induction I was worried about as much as the possibility of needing another c-section. Fortunately, my fears were completely unfounded on that front and I pushed out a beautiful baby girl. However, my rising blood pressure was still an issue. 3 days later, I was readmitted to the hospital with incredibly high blood pressure and a headache that even Tylenol 3 could barely touch.</p><p>In the ER with my brand new baby, they informed me I had developed Pre-eclampsia, and would need to be admitted for a day to administer magnesium. In order to administer the medication, I would need to be fully on bed rest, not even able to get out of bed to use the bathroom. I asked them what about my baby? Y'know my 3 day old breast fed newborn? At first, they wanted to have my mother take her home. I said what about establishing breast feeding? They said I could pump for her. I was in tears. Here I was being admitted to the hospital, just 3 days after having left, with a newborn, my hormones were an absolute mess and they wanted me to send my newborn away? My husband was also freaking out because there was no way he felt equipped to handle a new baby and our 4 other kids without my being there. Thank goodness, in the end they said if I had someone who could stay in the room with me and help take care of the baby, she could stay. So my mom, who had been hanging around outside the ER (pandemic precautions) was allowed to come in and help. </p><p>Several hours later we were finally admitted to a room and was started on the magnesium. It was a very long, trying day. And in the afternoon, I had to go through almost the same song and dance again. We weren't sure if they were going to keep me another day, and they were very unhappy with the idea of breaking the rules and having my mom and baby there for another day. Happily, my blood pressure had recovered and in the end we were sent home with new blood pressure medication and a teal bracelet with the word "Pre-eclampsia" for the next 12 weeks. </p><p>After this whole adventure, I looked into causes of Pre-E, and one of the main ones was obesity. Now, I had been obese and I realized that if I want to have any more kids without a repeat of this, I need to get serious and lose weight. Get to a healthy weight before getting pregnant again. So now I am on a weightloss journey. So far, I have lost almost 40 lbs, but have almost 25 left to lose. It is challenging, especially with the holidays and I am currently plateaued at the same 5 pounds for the past month, but I will persevere. I need to get to a healthier place. And with G-d's help, this time I will stay there.</p>MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-51876042558908970672020-11-04T16:11:00.001-05:002020-11-04T16:11:22.178-05:00<p> And then, she stepped off the cliff.</p><p>She fell, her hair flowing behind her, looking both elegant and fragile. </p><p>When it looked almost too late, her wings snapped open and caught on a gust of air, she flew. </p><p>She soared, letting the wind do most of the work, only flapping when necessary.</p><p>Closing her eyes, she listened to the wind as it roared past her ears, enjoying this brief respite. Before she had to land and return to reality. After all, this may be the last time she gets a break for a very long time.</p>MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-24911826896557038142020-10-22T22:39:00.003-04:002020-10-22T22:39:54.923-04:00Pandemic<p> It's been almost a year since I first heard about this strange virus that was popping up all around a little place called Wuhan, China. In fact, the first that I heard of it was on reddit, and what I remember reading was that there was a doctor that China wanted to shut up that was trying to get out a warning about this virus. </p><p>I'm a bit ashamed to admit it, but one of the first thoughts that crossed my mind was that I was glad that it was far away on the other side of the world. I had forgotten how small the world has become, and that just because it was far away from me, didn't mean it couldn't come here. The next time I heard about it was in January I think. We started to hear of a couple of cases, here and there in the country, and yet still, it didn't seem that close to home. It won't come here. I had somehow forgotten I live in one of the biggest tourist hot spots in the country. Of course it would come, it was only a matter of time. </p><p>Come mid-March; shutdown. Life seemed to grind to almost a standstill. Though of course life never truly stands still, certainly not for long. In those 3 months I potty trained my 3, almost 4 year old, we moved to an apartment, and I had baby #5. </p><p>Now, almost 7 months after shutdown began, I wear a mask to go out, feel guilty if I forget it, and try to not take my health for granted. I pray everyday to keep my family and friends safe from this plague and try not to live in fear, and live the life I am granted every day. What more can we ask for? You are never more aware of how precious life is, than when you know it can be snatched from you in a moment. </p>MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-14184766239743326552020-10-19T23:42:00.001-04:002020-10-19T23:42:43.521-04:00Dreams<p> We all have them, right? We might not remember them, but supposedly everyone has REM sleep. REM stands for Rapid Eye Movement. That is the stage of sleeping when dreaming happens. I tend to have very vivid, memorable dreams. That's been the case since I was a kid. I even used to keep a dream journal, but I don't really remember enough of my dreams to record them anymore. It's not that my dreams have gotten less vivid, it's more that everyday life tends to chase away the fog of sleep and the dreams that came with it. My 2 year old comes into my room almost every morning. "Mommy, eat!" she demands, tugging at my hand. In the face of that, who would remember such a fleeting thing as a dream? I kind of miss the times when I was able to recall my dreams at leisure. I know I had a good one the other night, that told a whole story. What was it about? No idea, since it flew away once my little one started making her demands. Fortunately, there is always another night, and maybe, another dream. Maybe the next one will stick and I'll get a chance to write it down. That would be nice. Good night, and may all your dreams, be happy ones.</p>MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-54423843564578684512020-10-12T22:28:00.005-04:002020-10-12T22:28:37.929-04:00Going to sleep<p>My kids don't sleep. I mean they do, at some point. But there are definitely nights where I believe they will never fall asleep. All of my daughters share a room, so every night is like a sleepover. Which I simultaneously love and hate. I love it, because it's exactly what I wanted when I was a kid, but never had since I only had one brother. I hate it, because then I'm constantly hearing my daughters talking to each other, which means they are not asleep. Which means they will not be going to sleep anytime soon while one of them is talking and possibly keeping the others up. On the other hand, my son, who does not have anyone to share a room with and should therefore be able to theoretically go to sleep at a normal time, does not. He is his own keeping himself up, making up stories to himself, playing with toys in bed, even just lying in bed and staring at the ceiling. He is a night owl. To be frank though, they all come by their night owl personality honestly. Both my husband and I are and have always been night owls. Guess I'll just learn to live with it. </p>MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-14416015652184043712020-09-30T08:53:00.003-04:002020-09-30T08:53:26.106-04:00Playgrounds<p> Playgrounds are not something that is usually at the forefront of your mind. Most of the time, you can just drive or walk past one and not think anything of it. But lately...</p><p>Playgrounds around here have been closed for the last 6 months. I miss them. My kids miss them. I never realized how necessary playgrounds were, until we no longer could use them. Now, every-time I drive past a playground, I gaze at it with sadness, wondering when we'll be able to use a playground again. Sure, there are playgrounds open a couple of counties north of us, but I shouldn't have to drive 45 minutes away just for my kids to get to play on a playground for an hour or so. I did it, just to get them out of the house and to a place where they could run around and just be kids, but I was so drained coming back, I'm not so sure it was worth it. All I ask, is please, please, please re-open the playgrounds. For our kids sanity. For our own sanity.</p>MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-22309674960292800392020-01-05T22:45:00.000-05:002020-01-05T22:45:02.559-05:00Today was one of those days. Two of the kids stayed in PJs all day, didn't bother to change them into new ones before bed. We didn't even leave the house. But, I got several loads of laundry done, even getting the older 2 to help sort and put away their own clothes. We cleaned up the absolute chaos of a room that is my daughters' room. So all in all, I feel pretty accomplished for the day. And guess what wrapping up the day with writing a blog post for the first time in over a year! Yep, a pretty good day for me indeed.<div>
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MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-42149951628811158942018-11-11T23:59:00.004-05:002018-11-11T23:59:55.477-05:00A Morning of MourningIt was a busy Friday morning, I was piling all the kids in the car, and keeping an eye out to see if I could spot both of the kittens that had taken up residence in our yard over the past few days. I saw Oreo, the brave little black and white kitten almost right away. She was busy playing on the path, doing kitten things. Glancing around, I noticed the form of the black kitten, lying in the bushes. I crept up to the kitten, hoping to get a little glimpse in before the kitten jumped up and ran and hid, as she usually did. Unexpectedly however, she just looked at me and let out a little hiss, but didn't make a move to get up. Staring at her for a moment, I reached my hand out to her, ready to grab it back if she took a swipe or jumped up and ran, but aside from another hiss and a plaintive meow, there was no reaction. I cautiously scooped her up, to more hissing and meowing, and tried to bring her to the water bowl, thinking she was too dehydrated, but she would not drink. I felt alarmed and determined. We had already lost one cat because I hadn't tried to save her, I wasn't going to have it on my conscience again if there was something that could be done.<div>
I called my husband, and told him what I had found, and that if it was possible, I would try to help the kitten. He sighed and gave me his blessing, but warned me we couldn't spend more than $100. I agreed and went to the first place that might help, the Humane Society. I got there and asked a volunteer where I could get the kitten looked at, she told me to bring the kitten to the clinic. After getting all the children out of the car, we were told that the clinic does not treat sick animals, it was only a preventative clinic. Getting everyone (and the kitten) back into the car, I sat a and pondered my next step. I decided to take the kitten to the vet at Petsmart, and see what they would say. We drove over there, and all got out from the car again, and grabbed a cart for the baby and the kitten. After inquiring about their services, they said they were also primarily preventative care, but agreed to see the kitten in any case. </div>
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After a lot of waiting, and a quick examination, the vet informed me that they couldn't tell what was wrong with the kitten, but would have to order blood tests and other things. I asked how much it would hit me in the packet, and it turned out to be close to $200. By this time, I had called my husband again, and he pointed out it would not be feasible to take care of the kitten inside due to our son's allergies. I sadly agreed and had to tell the vet we would not be proceeding with testing. My oldest daughter (5) started throwing a fit that she wanted to bring the kitten home and take care of it. I had the joyless task of trying to explain to her that that would not be feasible and not be happening. She was not happy to hear it.</div>
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So off we all went, again, back to the Humane Society to drop off the kitten. I went inside myself, thinking it would be a quick affair. It turned I was right, but not for the reason I thought. Apparently, this Humane Society would not take sick animals, but handed me a paper of two places that would. The first was all the way in Dural, about a 40 minute drive away, and not near any kosher stores. I hadn't yet even started my food shopping for shabbos, never mind preparing! The second location looked more promising as it was closer, although it was in another county and relatively close to a kosher food store. After driving another 25 minutes, I finally arrived. I closed my eyes and the looked down at the soft fur of the black kitten that had been quietly lying in my lap as I drove all over the place. I had to believe this was the best thing for her. I had done everything in my power. I gathered up my strength, told my kids to tell the kitten goodbye, and went to give her away. Unfortunately for me, since we lived in a different county than where this shelter was, they said they would not be able to accept the kitten. </div>
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At this, though I had been holding myself together for the sake of my children, I burst into tears. (My children were in the car and not in direct line of view)I explained through my sobs that I had been driving all over that morning, and there was no possible way I would be able to take this kitten all the way to Doral, and also still buy food and get ready for our shabbos. If they could not take the kitten, I would be forced to leave it to die next to my porch since I could not bring it in because of my sons's allergies. I soon gathered an audience of about 4 workers, watching me as a I bawled out my sad story, and then they told me they would work something out. I was so glad, I was able to get a hold of my emotions and try to start calming myself down. While I waited for them to figure out a way to bring in my kitten, another woman came and sat next to me. She had rescued a kitten who was wandering around an intersection, and was dropping it off at the shelter. She struck up a conversation, asking about the little limp bundle in my lap. I picked up the kitten and showed her, the kitten meowed in protest. Looking at the kittens flickering eyes, the woman said it looked like the kitten had brain damage,and was unlikely to recover. In an odd way, that comforted me. I had done everything in my power to help the kitten, and now I could give it up to those to either help it, or more likely help ease it's passing. But the choice was no longer mine alone. After saying my goodbyes to the kitten, when they finally came out and said they were ready to accept her, I walked back to my car deep in thought. I was relieved to be free of the burden, and yet saddened that I could not have done more. </div>
MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-41299787378095083832018-08-01T00:49:00.001-04:002018-08-01T00:52:00.617-04:00The Saga of My Washer and Dryer Part 2We left off, my landlady promised I would get my washer come hell or high water,and she delivered. Or rather the washer was finally delivered. It was ordered 3x, but the first two times did not take. Then, once they finally took the order, they tried to deliver it on a Saturday, at 11 am. Do you know where we are on Saturday at 11am? Here's a clue: NOT home. So, we needed to have it rescheduled. It finally arrived on Wednesday, got all installed in blah blah blah. Finally! Let's put up our first load of laundry, right? Get this sucker going. I start the machine, and walk away. Next thing I know I'm hearing Glug, glurg, splash and there is water all over the floor. The water is pouring out of the pipe behind the machine like a fountain, only the fountain is currently in my living room. Great. Peachy. What could have gone wrong? Maybe we put too much clothes in, after all, this was our first time doing laundry in weeks and there are a lot of clothes. So I put much less in the next load. Unfortunately for my floor and walls this did zip, we still ended up with glurg glug splash and washer vomit all over the floor. Fantastic. Called up my landlady and informed her of what was going on, and she sent over her handyman son. He looks around, hems and haws, and it turns out that since this washer is so much bigger than the last one, the whole in the ground is not big enough, so it's all backing up the pipe when the washer was trying to drain. Cue about a day or so of digging, and we have a hole halfway to China in our yard, but hey, at least the washer won't back up again. Cover up the hole so no children are in danger of falling in and we are ready to roll! Thus, the Saga of the Washer is over, the Dryer was a whole 'nother story.<br />
To Be Continued....MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-3669684142094409442018-03-20T22:11:00.001-04:002018-03-22T12:18:58.488-04:00THE SAGA OF MY WASHER AND DRYER<p dir="ltr">Why is it a saga you ask? What could be so fascinating about a Washer and Dryer? They're just there to wash and dry clothes, not all that interesting to watch. All of this is very true I must admit. What makes this a saga however, is how we got them and actually got them to work.<br>
We rented a house. Beautiful big house, loads of space for our 4 kids, 3 bedrooms, 4 baths, awesome kitchen, all the great stuff. Before we moved in the landlord was promising all the things. But most importantly, a new washer and dryer. I was so excited about this new washer and dryer, since for the last almost 8 years, I had been shlepping all of our laundry over to my mother's. And as our family grew, so did our loads of laundry, Finally, at last I would have a washer and dryer of my own!<br>
Comes moving day, we move in ALLL our stuff and...no washer, and no dryer. What's happening here? Why am I being deprived of my much longed for washer and dryer?<br>
So I called up our landlord's wife, who is a very kind and understanding woman, and told her of my plight. She promised she would help see us through and I would get my washer and dryer.<br>
Part 2 to come later...</p>
MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-30365988531279216802017-07-06T23:55:00.002-04:002017-07-06T23:55:19.804-04:00Story prompt - Chapter 1It began like almost every other day, like almost any other job. Check in at work, check the e-mails. see if anything urgent needs dealing with right away, drink your third coffee of the day. The office is filled with the hum of quiet conversation, the soft whirring from computers and the sound of the air conditioner as it fought to keep the room at a cool 68 degrees, at odds with 120 degrees outside.<br />
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This was no ordinary job, however. This was Area 51, or A51 as the locals called it. In bunkers buried many hundreds of feet underground there were many scientists at work, keeping the world safe from the knowledge of what really lay out among the stars. A lot more landed on earth than most people were aware of, and the tabloids had more right than they knew. Of course, none of it could ever be confirmed. Deny, Deny, Deny. That was the baseline.<br />
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The screen flickered over the keyboard as you looked through your e-mails, marking as "urgent" or "put off till another day". Suddenly, out of the corner of your eye, you notice something unusual. Your boss, the steadiest person you have ever met, who wouldn't blink if presented with a Gundian Thoraitor (and those things are SCARY), was pale. Very very pale. She had been on the phone, but slowly lowered it and it fell from nerveless fingers.<br />
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She swallowed, and trying to regain some of her composure, beckoned to you.<br />
"My office, NOW." She turned on her heel and strode to her office in the back of the bunker.<br />
Though she tried valiantly to hide it, her hands were still shaking.<br />
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Getting up from your desk, abandoning your half finished coffee, you quickly follow. Despite her shocking display of vulnerability, it did not do to keep the boss waiting. She was known to make heads roll for lateness.<br />
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After traversing the space from your desk to her office, you knock a little on the open door.<br />
"In! NOW!"<br />
Boss lady sounds a little more herself, which is now somehow more worrying than before.<br />
"SIT!"<br />
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You quickly seat yourself in her uncomfortable , "the minion must always be at un-ease" seats.<br />
She glares out you, her dark eyes flashing, seeming to measure you up. She quickly nods, as if coming to a decision.<br />
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"I have received a call from one of our Outer Allies."<br />
Receiving a call from one of them was nothing new. In fact, it was part of the agreement made that they would check in once a week and give a heads up on anything unusual that was incoming.<br />
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"What we will soon be facing, is nothing like we have ever come across before. I don't know that we are equipped to handle it quite frankly." She braced herself against the desk and looked at you soberly. She handed you...a pink sticky note. You looked at it, confused. All that was written on it was a bunch of random letters and numbers.<br />
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"We are calling in a big favor now. We are calling HIM. You are authorized to offer anything. No holds barred. He is the only thing standing between us and certain destruction." You looked up at her, entirely shocked, and could feel the blood leave your face. Deal with Him? And you the "lucky" one chosen to the task? Well; bugger.<br />
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<br />MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-44416003973072947162017-07-06T23:18:00.001-04:002017-07-06T23:18:49.432-04:00The AbyssAs you stare into the abyss, so the abyss stares into you.<br />
Are you strong enough to take it, or do you avert your eyes, shaken to the core?<br />
Will it strengthen you, bring you to the brink and back again, or shatter you beyond all reason and hope?<br />
Will it toughen you, make you more sure of yourself and ready on your way, or will it break you, and leave you in a shivering heap?<br />
Will you leave with your back straight, your head held high, or will you trail, never looking up from the ground, bent almost double?<br />
You determine your worth,<br />
You, and the Abyss.<br />
<br />MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-61808292510603926422017-04-20T17:25:00.000-04:002017-04-20T17:25:08.455-04:00To go or not to go?<br />
Shall I plunge into the abyss, never to resurface, and seek an end?<br />
Or shall I stay, and in staying, create more memories as well as more songs to fill the world?<br />
To end it all, and leave, not telling anyone where I have gone?<br />
Or to abide, and continue on with this life?<br />
To depart, create a new life elsewhere, with no one to hold me down?<br />
Or to linger, and keep on living in this place?<br />
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(Don't worry, I'm not going anywhere, it's just one of those things that popped into my head.)MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-12000256218008679062016-10-09T21:49:00.001-04:002016-10-09T21:49:08.952-04:00Dystopia<div class="MsoNormal">
I read a book recently, called “Station Eleven”. Originally,
I thought it was about the future of humans in a space station, but it turned
out to be the future of humans … on earth. The book follows several people
through several years. Mostly through the end of the world as we know it. Most
of humanity dies from a pandemic of the swine flu. Like 1918 Flu but a hundred
thousand times worse. </div>
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One of the characters estimates that about 99% of the
earth’s population died.</div>
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Honestly, I was very tempted to put the book down was I
realized it was a dystopian book. I find these kinds of books to be incredibly
depressing and quite frankly, scary. I am blessed (sometimes I feel cursed)
with a very good imagination. So when I read about these things, I have very
vivid images in my mind. The sight of people lying in the streets, gasping for
breath, alternating between shivering and sweating. Finally, so much death, so
much stillness. The streets practically empty, those who are left are just
trying to survive in a world that is entirely changed. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Then, I put myself in the book. Would I be one of the ones
who had died? Would all my family be gone? Or would I be one of the survivors?
Would my family survive or just me? Could I continue to go on in that kind of
environment? I don’t know which idea is scarier. That I’d be alive or be dead. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I am not a fan of dystopian books or movies. I find it all
too easy to feel myself in their positions, to feel their fear and terror. I
find it all too easy to drop myself into that world and then…I find it very
difficult to resurface. I look around me at everything we take for granted and
think about how very quickly it could be gone, vanished in some disaster or
other. The ones where it is a natural disaster that we cannot hope to ever stop
(or even foresee) are the most terrifying to me. Because….what if it does
happen? <o:p></o:p></div>
MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-46620768249051234512016-07-05T23:10:00.001-04:002016-07-05T23:10:48.366-04:00Parenting is HARDI have 3 kids. One would think, that with three kids, I would have this parenting gig down and be secure in my decisions. But every day brings new challenges and new choices, and I wonder if I am completely screwing up my children for life. Are my kids going to bed to late? Is my lack of enforcement on bedtime ruining their sleeping patterns forever? How about school? What if I send them to the one that isn't the best fit for them, but we can't afford one that is? What if I home school some of my children, but not others? Almost every night before bed, I have these and similar questions swirling around my head.<br />
However, is my parenting really the be all, end all? How about the child's nature, that plays a role too. Is one parenting style that works for one kid, working for another, or are they feeling too stifled or too left out? Am I being too strict or too lax? Does time-out really work? If not, what alternatives do I have? Potty training is a whole other post.<br />
This parenting thing is hard...MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-15131893675885248732016-07-05T00:54:00.001-04:002016-07-05T00:54:50.162-04:00My 2nd VBAC Experience I went in for my 41 week appointment on Wednesday, 3 days before Pesach, expecting to be in and out as usual. I was in no way prepared to be told that my blood pressure was too high and I was being admitted to the hospital until I had my baby. I had no bag, no phone charger and only 20% left on my phone. Not only that, but the doctor who was supposed to deliver me wasn't on call and wouldn't be until Friday. I couldn't wait that long to have the baby, and the doctor who was on shift was not VBAC friendly. The midwife told me to hang tight and they would find a doctor who was VBAC friendly.<br />
In the meantime, I called my husband, told him there was a change of plan and we would be having this baby, if not today, then tomorrow for sure. He had to pick up the children from school/camp and bring me a hospital bag and a charger. Then, I called my mom, who was my birth coach and told her what was up. She was still at work and since nothing was actively happening, she said she'd be over in a couple of hours and to keep her in the loop. I also texted my doula to let her know what was going on, but told her not to come just yet.<br />
After that was taken care of, I sat and watched TV in the delivery room and realized I was feeling contractions like I had been the past few days. But these were slightly more intense. After sitting there for a couple of hours, the nurse came in to check me and I had progressed in those hours from a 1 to a 3! I was thrilled, I was avoiding being induced!<br />
I called my mom and husband with the info. About an hour later, my husband came over with the kids and my bag and charger and they hung out in the room until my mom arrived about a 1/2 hr later. Then, after a whole bunch of shuffling about I was left alone for a little bit longer. Then my mother came back with my birthing ball and my doula showed up soon after. My contractions had gotten a little more intense and I was breathing through them, shifting into different positions. <br />
At around 9 or 10 pm it was determined I was at a 4. I was elated. With my last birth, I had not progressed past a 1 before I got an epidural, I had made it to a 4 now! I decided to get the epidural placed so I could get some sleep during the night so I would be well rested for giving birth (my births do not go quickly). They had finally found a VBAC doctor, who came in, introduced himself to me quickly, checked me and explained the possible risks of a VBAC, all of which I was well aware of.<br />
So, we settled in for the night. After an episode of the sink almost overfilling in my room and having to be switched to another delivery room. There was a fold out chair, I of course was on the bed, and another chair was brought in for the doula. We woke up at around 6 or 7 am the next morning and my mother went out to get coffee for herself and the doula. I was checked again and found be at a 7.<br />
For most of the morning, the nurses left us alone and let me labor in peace. Since I was numb from the waist down, trying different positions was out, so I stuck to trying to breathe through the contractions instead. At around 11:30 I was checked again and was at a 9. The last hour and a half before my baby was finally pushed out was the most brutal. All the contractions were so close together it was just one long, incredibly painful contraction.<br />
Finally at around 1 pm they folded the bed and starting coaching me to push. After pushing for around 10 minutes, out came my beautiful baby girl. After holding her a moment, she had to be rushed away to be checked and and have any meconium she swallowed suctioned out. <br />
After that, they whisked her away to the nursery, where they kept her until my blood pressure went down. Which it finally did about 5 hours later. In the meantime, right after I had her, I called my husband ( who was in charge of our other children and waiting for our son to get off the bus) that the baby had been born. After he got the kids, he came over to see how I was doing and meet our baby for the first time. My mom had to run, after all she still had to cook and prepare for Pesach, since we would be there and it was in less than 2 days!<br />
So, that is the story of my 2nd VBAC. It was hectic and crazy in ways I can't even convey, but B"H at the end of it all, we brought home our 3rd child, our beautiful baby girl.<br />
<br />MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-60965964196465170822016-07-04T23:14:00.001-04:002016-07-05T23:26:17.597-04:00How life changes...So this year so far has been...complicated. Some good, some bad. My Grandmother passed away in March, the day after Purim. It was a very hard time for me, because I was very close to my Grandma. From about age 8, I would go to her home for sleepovers and loved spending time with her. In more recent years, I loved taking my children to see her. Her face would light up and she was so proud to introduce her "granddaughter, grandson and THESE are my great-grandchildren." My daughter, who I gave birth to the day before erev Pesach is named for her. I sometimes tear up, remembering that she will never get a chance to meet her. My mother's dog, Mariner, who was like part of the family was diagnosed with cancer a few weeks before my grandmother passed and he passed away the day after Pesach. My newborn, the daughter mentioned above, was in the hospital (with me) for 2 1/2 days during Pesach for a UTI. As I said, a complicated year...and it's only half over!<br />
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<br />MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-50070522019494267642016-01-25T23:02:00.000-05:002016-01-25T23:02:28.910-05:00BlogAre blogs dying out? Supposedly not, if you're "good at it." Those who can make a schedule and keep to it. Those who review products or offer opinions others really want to hear. Those who, in other words, can make some sort of money blogging.<br />
What about regular blogs? Blogs like this one which are a mish mosh of random thoughts being poured into a computer and placed out there for the world to see. Or not see as the case may be. A lot of the blogs I used to read when I first started my own are either no longer updated or no longer in existence, having since folded up and gone home. I too, took a hiatus and no longer blogged.<br />
Life gets in the way, or you lose focus, or feel like there is no longer an audience, so what's the point? Why continue? Why even start up again when no one is likely to look or care that you have returned? Maybe because, even if it is like shouting into the abyss, there is still the small, faint hope that someone out there will still hear, and find interest in what I have to say.MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-64759406043035081662016-01-24T22:46:00.000-05:002016-01-24T22:46:53.059-05:00PersonalitiesSo I have 2 kids. I always find it interesting to watch their different personalities emerge. You'd think, given that they both have the same mother and father, they would have somewhat similar personalities but nothing could be further from the truth.<br />
My children have very different personalities. My son is very much in his own head. He is willing to engage others in whatever is going on in there, but he can also play by himself for hours. My daughter loves to be around others and involved in whatever interesting thing seems to be going on around her. My son is willing to put up with hugs, but is generally very passive about them. Rarely does he initiate. My daughter just loves hugs and any kind of touch. Constantly needing to have some kind of contact throughout the day.<br />
And as they grow and interact with others more I see more facets of their personalities come to light. One thing is for certain, it is never boring when there are kids around!MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-21880107253454914672016-01-18T21:57:00.002-05:002016-01-18T21:57:52.285-05:00RestlessnessWatching the TV...there's nothing on. Flipping through my books, what once I used to read and re-read seems old and dull. Wandering through the house restlessly, looking for something but not knowing what it is. Opening and staring at the fridge, am I hungry? No. Closing the door and looking around some more. Why do I have all this pent up energy? What is driving me, not allowing me rest? What I used to find enjoyment in no longer amuses me. Someone save me from this madness!MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-88194548669278904652015-12-10T19:17:00.003-05:002015-12-10T19:21:12.882-05:00BubblesThey are the bane of my existence. Every time one of my kids see the bottles, they act excited. Can we go outside and blow bubbles? PLEASE? And every time I say yes, the same thing happens, without fail. We go out, I blow bubbles (and/or one of the kids does) and before 10 minutes is up, the bubble bottle gets spilled (or dumped) all over the floor. End of scene. And I tell myself that we are NEVER doing this again. Even so, every few months, I think THIS time it will be different. Maybe THIS time.MAKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07096583450359907833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33780072.post-2518674153479736672015-11-23T21:35:00.001-05:002015-11-23T21:35:15.434-05:00Acceptance<div class="MsoNormal">
Either accept us for who we are, or accept us not at all.
However, be warned, if you choose to not accept us that it is your folly and
will lead to your downfall. For today, we rise up and fight against what has
been pressed upon us for too long. Enough! We say, we will make our own
destinies and forge our own path, no longer oppressed and beaten down. No
longer to be told that we are worthless, that our only worth lies in what we
can do for others. Our worth lies in WHO WE ARE. <o:p></o:p></div>
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